Feeling Empty: How To Overcome Feeling Of Emptiness?
You most likely have felt empty in your life before. It’s that feeling that there is an empty void or hole inside you. When you are empty, you are lacking or missing something. Some people say if you feel empty before a relationship, you will still feel empty in a relationship.
So how exactly are you supposed to deal with feeling empty?
This post will go over 5 ways to deal with feeling empty. Before we get into some methods to deal with feeling empty, you first have to know a bit more about the feeling. Feeling empty from time to time is a normal part of the human experience. Signs that you are dealing with the feeling of emptiness is that you don’t have a sense of purpose and you are not happy but you aren’t sad either. As for what causes the feeling of emptiness, no one knows for sure since there may be more than 1 cause.
Although we don’t know the exact cause, most people can agree that filling up the hole with things like food and drugs won’t help deal with feelings of emptiness. Now there’s some good news and bad news. The bad news is that the hole aka the feelings of emptiness will always be there which is why we all feel empty from time to time. The good news is that you can do things to make the hole less noticeable.
Here are the 5 ways to deal with feeling empty:
1. Create a solid sense of self
When you lack a stable ego or sense of identity, you are just going through life on autopilot. I strongly believe that you need a strong sense of identity to function successfully in society. Without a stable ego, you are out of touch with your feelings, which is why you struggle to feel happy or sad which leads to you feel empty.
I find that those who feel empty and have a weak sense of self tend to have tough childhoods, especially if they are from an immigrant family. If you were raised in a strict family with rigid roles, you might have been trained from a young age to be a doctor, lawyer, engineer, or whatever prestigious job your family liked. Chances are, you probably didn’t like it since you have other aspirations but you were taught that it’s not ok to be you. This leads to an unstable ego since you never got the chance to explore and develop yourself.
If you have an unstable ego, there are a few steps to help you find a sense of identity.
First off, write down things you genuinely like doing and don’t include things you should like out of duty. Then, keep exploring the things you wrote down by trying them out or learning about them through books or videos. As you explore, make another note of how you felt while doing the activity. Once you figure out what makes you the happiest, continue exploring that thing more. Throughout your journey, keep asking yourself who and what you want to be. The answer to that will often keep changing as you try to stabilize your identity.
2. Stop searching for happiness
Some people end up feeling empty after sacrificing so much to live the good life only to end up with a job or career that doesn’t fulfill them. They chased happiness but ended up with emptiness. The idea of stopping yourself from searching for happiness sounds insane but hear me out. Viktor Frankl, the author of the famous book: ‘Man’s Search for Meaning’ believes that happiness can’t be pursued. You have to let happiness happen by not caring about it. You can only achieve happiness by extending beyond yourself, either in service to others or a cause above yourself. Once you put meaning in the heart of your life, you can then be happy. If you go about happiness the wrong way, you end up with emptiness but if you go about it the right way, you won’t have feelings of emptiness.
3. Take care of yourself physically
Make sure you have enough sleep – ideally 7 to 8 hours. You need at least 7 hours of sleep to be able to function properly and most of us probably know how unproductive we are when we don’t have enough sleep.
Make sure you exercise or at least move around more as well. Exercise helps release chemicals that improve your overall mood and well-being. If you’re physical health is not good, your mental health won’t be good either. You might have felt empty because you haven’t taken care of yourself physically. A good night’s sleep and some exercise can do wonders to help you combat those feelings of emptiness.
4. Seek therapy
If you are at a point where your feelings of emptiness is severely hurting your mental health, you want to get therapy. In some cases, feelings of emptiness can develop into depression which is a serious mental illness. If your mental health is not improving after trying stuff you learned online, please seek professional help.
5. Connect with people
Being lonely could be a cause of feeling empty. Try to find those who also felt empty before or are currently dealing with the feeling. You can connect with them more easily and you can help solve each other’s problems. If you don’t have anyone in your life at the moment, you can look online. There are a lot of communities you can join online to find some people to connect to.
If you don’t know which method to try first, I strongly suggest trying out the first method since I believe a lack of identity is a primary cause of feeling empty. All of the methods are just as effective though and you should resort to method 4 or getting therapy if things go bad.
Source: The Life Formula